Tonette Kelly

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Leaving Your Child Home Own Alone

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I am often asked how old a child should be before you leave them home alone and there is no simple answer.

In the United Kingdom there is no specific age limit for leaving a child home alone but it is an offence to leave a child alone if it places them at risk. Parents can be prosecuted if they leave a child alone and unsupervised ‘in a manner likely to cause unnecessary suffering or injury to health’ (Children and Young Person’s Act).

The test for you then is to determine the maturity of your child and their emotional and physical cabaility to be left alone.

The National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) believes that:

  • children under the age of about 12 are rarely mature enough to be left alone for a long period of time
  • children under the age of 16 should not be left alone overnight
  • babies, toddlers and very young children should never be left alone

Some children may be mature and confident enough to be left alone at 12 years of age whilst others may not be ready until aged 14 or even later.

It is important to speak to your child about how they feel about being left alone. If they have no issue with it why not give them some test runs of an hour or so and see how they cope.

When you do leave your child alone:

  • leave a contact phone number for you and make sure you can answer it quickly
  • leave a list of contact people in case you can’t be reached for some reason
  • remind your child of your rules before you leave in relation to watching television, using the computer and answering the phone and door
  • speak to your child about what they should do in the case of an emergency (like a fire)
  • let your child know when you will be back and be on time
  • ask your child what they will be doing whilst you are gone

Before you leave check again that your child is happy to be left alone.

If not arrange a babysitter.


April 11, 2011 Posted by | Children, Uncategorized | , , , | Leave a comment

What You See Is What You’ll Be



I’m not sure if you’ve ever head of Esther and Jerry Hicks but they are amazing teachers of the Law of Attraction.

Each day they send out inspirational quotes and teachings and I thought that I would use this site to share them with you. Abraham is a spiritual being who sends messages through Esther.




We are all Vibrational Beings. You’re like a receiving mechanism that when you set your tuner to the station, you’re going to hear what’s playing. Whatever you are focused upon is the way you set your tuner, and when you focus there for as little as 17 seconds, you activate that vibration within you. Once you activate a vibration within you, Law of Attraction begins responding to that vibration, and you’re off and running — whether it’s something wanted or unwanted

— Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in North Los Angeles, CA on Sunday, August 18th, 2002 # 37

What this means is that when you focus on something for as little as 17 seconds you send a signal out into the universe which is acted upon by the universe.

The universe does not care if what you focus on is what you want or what you do not want. It works on the basis that its role is to deliver you that which you think about most.

As a result you should be very careful to make use of the law of deliberate creation and deliberately focus your thoughts on the positive outcomes that you want to avoid being delivered what you do not want.

I’d love to hear your success stories with the Law of Attraction strategy.

Tonette Kelly

April 9, 2011 Posted by | Life | , | Leave a comment

Does Every Girl Want To Be A Princess?

Is It Good To Be A Princess?

My daughter asked me the other day whether it would be good to be Kate Middleton and marry a prince.

I thought about if for a bit and then answered that it depends on how much she loves William. if she loves him a lot she will indeed lead a fairytale life as working together as a team they can achieve so much. Every door will open for them. They will, however, be forever under a microscope and their every move and word monitored, so the cost is high.

If their love is not deep and strong the restrictions will be unbearable.

I’d love to hear whether you would be happy for your daughter to marry a prince or you think the cost is too high.

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April 7, 2011 Posted by | Children, Life, Uncategorized | , , | Leave a comment